Self Esteem

Building Self esteem

Recognize that you control your Self image

The first thing you must do is recognize that you ultimately control how you see yourself. You do have the power to change your self-image. Your self-image resides in your mind and is product of your thinking. Although others may influence yourself concept you are the final authority.

Don’t let others set your goals

A common trap that many people fall into is letting others set the standards by which they evaluate themselves. Others are constantly telling you that you should do this or that you ought to do that. Thus, you hear that you should study computer science or ought to lose weight or must move to a better neighborhood. Most of this people are well intentioned, and many of them may have good ideas. Do they really represent ideals that you value? Or are they beliefs that you have passively accepted from others without thinking? 

Recognize unrealistic goals

Even if you truly value certain ideals and sincerely wand to achieve certain goals, another question a remains. Are your goals realistic? Many people get in the habit of demanding too much of themselves. They always want to perform at their best, which is obviously impossible, some overly demanding people pervert the social comparison process by always comparing themselves against the best rather than against similar other.

Modify negative self-talk

The way you analyze your life influence how you see yourself (and vice versa). People who are low in self-esteem tend to engage in various counterproductive modes of thinking. Such irrational thinking and negative self-talk breed poor self-esteem. It is important to recognize the distractive potential of negative self-talk and bring it to a halt.

Emphasize your strengths

The advice to emphasize your strengths may seem trite, but it has genuine merit. Peoples with low self-esteem often derive little satisfaction from there accomplishment and virtues. They little heed to their good qualities while talking constantly about their defects frailties. the factors that everyone has strength and weakness. You should aspect those personal shortcomings that you are powerless to change and work on those that are changeable without becoming obsessed about it. At the same time, you should take stock of your strengths and learn to appreciate them.

Work to improve your self

As just mentioned, some personal shortcomings can be overcome. Although it is important to reassess your goal and discard those that are unrealistic, this advice is not indented to provide a convenient rationalization for complacency. There is much to be said for setting out to conquer personal problems. As we say in our discussion of self-efficacy, there is a ample evidence that efforts at self-improvement can pay of by boosting self-esteem.

Approach others with a positive outlook

People who are low in self-esteem of turn to try to cut others down to their (subjective) size through constant criticism. As you can readily imagine this faultfinding and generally negative approach to interpersonal transactional go over well with other people. Instead it leads to tension antagonism and rejection. These rejection lowers self-esteem still further efforts to build self-esteem can be facilitated by recognizing and reversing this self-defecting tendency. Approaching people with a positive, supportive outlook will promote rewarding interaction and help you earn their acceptance. There is probably nothing has and hands self-esteem more than acceptance and genuine affection from others.

Self-concept

The self-concept, self-esteem, and identity are there major component of the self the self-concept is composed of a number of beliefs about what one is like, and it is not easily changed. It governs both present and future behavior. Individual self-concept very in complicity people with complex self-concept are likely to have stable emotions and high self-esteem. When there are discrepancies between one ideal self and actual or ought self, negative emotions and lowered self-esteem may result. To cope with negative starts individuals may bring their behavior line with their ideals selves blunt there awareness of self-discrepancies.

Self-regulation

Self-regulation involves setting goals and directing behavior to meet those goals. A key aspect of self-regulation is self-efficiency/an individual’s believes that he or she can achieve specific goals self-efficiency plays a key role in adjustment and can be learned through mastery experience, vicarious experience, persuasion and positive interpretations of emotional arousal.

Self-presentation

Public selves are the various images that individuals project to others. Generally, people try to create a positive impression for others employing impression management strategies such as ingratiation. Basking in reflected glory, and self-handicapping. People who are high in self-monitoring are especially sensitive to the impressions they make on others

In striving to make positive impressions on others, it is unwise to strive too far from the truth. This misguided tactic may interfere with accurate self-perception and cause others to distressed and dislike us.

Self esteem

The self-concept is shaped by several factors. This includes individual’s observations of their behavior, which often involve social comparison with others-usually similar other who make up a reference group. Self-observation tend to be based in a positive direction, in addition, feedback from others shapes the self-concept this information is also filtered to some extent. Cultural guide inners also affect the way people see themselves those who are reared in Indi dualistic cultures usually have an independent view of the self, whereas those in collectivist cultures tend to have an indepent view of the self, whereas those in collectivist cultures tend to have an interdependent view of the self.

Identity

Self-esteem is a person’s global evaluation of his or her worth. Low self-esteem is associated with emotional problems and difficulties in social interactions. Because self-esteem affects expectations, it operates in a self-perpetuating fashion. Parents are especially important in determining self-esteem. Members of minority groups use a numbers of strategies to protect their self-image from the effects of being stigmatized.

Identity is a relatively clear and stable sense of who one is and what one stands for. According to Erik Erikson, developing a sense of identity is a key challenge of adolescence. James Marcia has proposed that identity out comes include foreclosure. Moratorium, diffusion, and achievement. A number of theorists emphasize the importance of congruence between ones public selves and ones self-concept and sense of identity.